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*Sunday Thanksgiving Service* _3 March 2019_ *Topic:* The venue of your blessing *Text:* Ps 91: 1-12 *Speaker:* Pastor O. Kaffo *Message:* -A venue is a place where things happen. - *Ps 91:1* The venue of your blessing is _the secret place of the most high_ - Everything you want in life has a location where you can access it, that is, _'a collection point'_ - No matter how long you have prayed or what you do, if you do not go to the location of your blessing you won't have access to it. -There is a place where what you want resides but ignorance sometimes prevents us from accessing our blessings. - *Job 22:21-22* The venue of your blessing is the *presence of God*. Verse 21 says _'Acquaint now thyself with Him, and be at peace: thereby good shall come unto thee'_ - *Psalm 16:11* in Gods presence, there is fullness of Joy. Spend time in the presence of God and He will meet you there - in His time. -You can't be coming into the presence of God all the time and remain 'ordinary' (the same way you've been). -The path of life is in Gods presence. When you do things your way, it tends to takes longer and will be more strenuous. But when you follow the path of God he will show you the right path to follow - *1 Chronicles 16:27; Ps 24:1-4; Ps 62:11* Everything you need is with God. All you desire and aspire to become is with God - in His presence (the venue of our blessing) -Many Christain don't get what they need from God because they do not go into the presence of God (often). -When you go into the presence of God regularly, He goes ahead of you. - Dwelling in the presence of God saves you a lifetime of struggle. - You can't come to harm when you are under God's spotlight. - You cannot dwell in the secret place of the most High and not fulfil destiny *Stay Blessed*

*Sunday Service* *24th February 2019* *Marriage and Family Series (Week 4)* *Topic:* Christian parenting without contravening the law. *Speaker:* Pastor Yemi Olujobi The fact that we are Christians does not mean we should not obey the law of the land we reside in. When the Bible talks about the law, it means at least the following: 1. The word of God 2. The old testament 3. The old covenant 4. Torah *Torah* Parent instructions to their children (parenting). The law of the land. The system is there to ensure that parents are able to meet the entire needs of the child. Children have basic needs of life. Every human being is entitled to welfare or physiological needs. Children must have freedom from violence, abuse and neglect. According to *Children's Act 1989 & 2004,* parental responsibility is defined as rights, duties, powers, control & responsibilities of parents towards their children. If you don’t meet your child’s safety needs the government will. *Significant harm on children include:* 1. Neglect. 2. Sexual abuse. 3. Financial abuse. 4. Emotional abuse. 5. Physical abuse. 6. Spiritual abuse. *Physical abuse on children includes:* 1. Use of closed fist. 2. Use of implements. 3. Leaving a mark. *Common contraventions among BMEs* 1. Physical abuse. 2. Withholding food. 3. Lack of stimulation. 4. Home alone. 5. Domestic abuse. 6. Neglect. 7. Exposure to sexual harm. 8. Spiritual abuse. 9. Being mean to children. 10. Comparison. 11. Favouritism. *How to deal with CSC issues:* 1. Pray about it committing the situation to God. 2. Seek advise from people who have professional knowledge. 3. Family solicitor not criminal. 4. Be honest & admit your wrong. 5. Work with the LA. 6. Get practical support from your network. 7. Seek emotional support. *DISCIPLINE VS PUNISHMEMT* The main goal of parenting is to increase self-regulation. Mainly, we want to raise our children to act well in any situation regardless of the fear of consequence. *Disciplined children* Not children who are extremely compliant, who grow up developing “people disease” i.e. people pleasers who allow others to walk all over them. Can’t say no when it’s needed. Gullible and easy targets. Vulnerable and do not have a mind of their own. *Punished children* *Aims of Discipline* 1. Child discipline is the methods used to prevent future behavioral problems in children. 2. The word discipline is defined as imparting knowledge and skill, in other words, to teach. 3. Child discipline can involve rewards and sanctions to teach self-control, increase desirable behaviors and decrease behaviors. *Important Aspects of Discipline* 1. Self control is the the ability to control oneself, in particular one's emotions and desires, especially in difficult situations. Aka self mastery, self discipline, self possession, composure, coolness. 2. Every parent must aim at producing a balanced human being who is capable of emotional regulation. *Emotional Regulation* 1. Ability to respond to circumstances in a socially acceptable way. 2. Controlling your responses to different feelings. 3. Being balanced and not extreme. 4. When you’re angry, you don’t lash out, kick off, destroy things or others through your words or behaviour. 5. When you’re happy you don’t become annoying and patronising or upset others or unmindful to other people’s feelings around you. Empathy. *What Discipline Is Not* 1.Not violence. 2. Not unpredictability. the child knows the sanction that goes with every negative behaviour because there’s been a dialogue around it prior to the event. 3. It’s not meanness or harshness. 4. It is not using sanctions that is disproportionate to the age of the child and the behaviour-this is abuse. Use of extreme punishments like no food, sanctions that are timeless 5. It’s not purely aimed at inflicting pain but teaching something positive. You’re not enemies *Effects of Punishment on Child's Brain* 1. Punishment is fear-based coercive discipline.And frequent fear is not good to brains because it produces harmful chemicals-stress hormones 2. When fear is presented frequently, the chronic elevated level of stress hormone will cause serious health problems for the child in the long run — brain shrinkage leading to memory and learning difficulties, suppressed immune system, hypertension, depression and anxiety disorder just to name a few. *Some Salient Points About Discipline* 1. Discipline is positive parenting. 2. It involves dialogue. 3. It involves teaching. 4. It involves understanding your child. 5. Understand why he exhibited the behaviour. 6. Give them the message that you believe in them. 7. Help them change the behaviour from their hearts. *SHALLOM!!!*

TGC Sport and Sport evangelism. Our next session is Tomorrow - 16th February, 2019 Sport : Football Venue: Sudgen sports center, oxford road, Manchester. Time & Date: This Saturday, 16th February by 5pm (prompt) Pitch type: Indoors (because of warmth). Please don't come with studded shoes. Contribution: £5 per family (and it's optional). For requests about other sports apart from football, contact us. Come with friends and family. Have a nice week!